Sunday, July 28, 2013

Pre-wedding stresses

I'm so distracted this week, going in to the final stretch before my daughter's wedding.  She's totally overwhelmed with all the little details that keep popping up and I'm having to be mom/therapist  :)
Even though she has watched and participated in her 7 brothers and sisters weddings (even 2 last year), it's a totally different experience when it's her own wedding.  She didn't realize all the stresses they went through!

As I reminded her today, the important things are in place.  They have their wedding license and temple recommends.  They have their new apartment.  They have the reception covered.  The honeymoon is arranged.  Sure, there will be some glitches in the day (there always are!) but there's no use thinking of all the bad things that might happen or the things that might be overlooked or forgotten.  It will be a beautiful day, rain or shine.

I asked one of my other daughters about the stresses she felt before her wedding and she easily rattled off a long list of concerns, both big and small.  And she finished by saying that looking back now (all of 3 years ago), none of them mattered.  How true of so many of the crises we deal with on a daily basis.  Rarely are they as big as we made them out to be.

It's normal to stress out before such a once-in-a-lifetime event but it doesn't help solve problems.  If a problem can be solved, great!  If a problem can't be fixed, let it go.   Keeping a positive attitude, relaxing, and being thankful for all that is going RIGHT, will make a special occasion that is looked back on with warm, happy memories.

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